Elvis C. Umez

Having peace of mind is not the absence of worries, but the effective management of worries. There can never be a world without worries. Your reactions to them determines how much peace of mind there is for you in life. Poverty is not the absence of money but the absence of right good thinking. The quality of your life is determined by the quality of your thoughts. To wit, be mindfull of what you think about on the daily basis. Keep your mind on where you are going, not where you have been. Keep your eyes on your goals as reach the adversity and make a stepping stone to your success. That you failed at doing something does not make you a looser, but when you chicken out you lost. Self pity and self doubt are clutches for losers.

Life is a continuous succession of both small and large problems. They never end. No Sooner do you get control of one situation when you are hit by another. Life is a function of two steps forward and one step backward.

As I walked through the hospital room door, I can barely put into words the emotion I felt. The first thing I saw was my perfectly formed, lifeless, little boy. He had been placed on a stainless steel trolley right near the door. I remember this so clearly because it made me furious. It felt so wrong for him to be there like that.Time stood still for a moment, as I stared at him. He was perfect, he was real, he just wasn't alive. My emotions raced, from rage, to despair, to disbelief. I found it hard to control them as I looked over at my beautiful, sad wife being spoken to by the doctor and midwife that had helped her deliver our stillborn baby boy.I can't remember all the details of that day very well. But I can remember with great clarity the words that were running through my mind."THIS WILL NEVER HAPPEN AGAIN"I decided I would channel my anger into determination and fearlessness.Jen and I buried our baby boy and made a pact that we would never go through that e...